Nderitu and Wambui
Kuhanda Ithigi “Planting Twigs” (Stating Intentions)
Before the ceremony is even considered, the groom and his age mates (“his boys”) must make a trip to his soon-to-be father in law’s homestead to state his intentions. In traditional times this was a very serious affair but in modern times it is a fairly fuss-free visit. There might be some hard questions asked by the father in law but that is to be expected. However, he should NOT show up empty handed. Bringing some food stuff for his new mother in law, and a token for his father-in-law is a good way to be on his in laws’ good side (Write up Source: Blissful).
(Dowry Negotiations and Payment)
The Ruracio is the traditional dowry negotiation and payment ceremony. Before the groom’s family is allowed into the house, the women of both houses sing songs at the entrance of the home. This vocal tussle is done to illustrate the coming together of two families, that start off singing two different songs but end up in sync. (Write up Source: Blissful).